Men and women are created differently; they see things and understand them from different angles. The same applies to how men and women perceive love and its expression. Many men shoot in the dark, leave their women unsatisfied and find themselves frustrated in their efforts to express love.Here are a few guidelines on how to show a woman you love her and thus win her heart: 1.Say it! Yes, just say it like it is. Why should you burn inside, beat about the bush and risk losing the one you love just because you are shy. Tell her you love her and the more you do that, you will find yourself acting out the love. Women need love and they want to hear it coming from your mouth and they will believe you. At the risk of generalising, women are ruled by the heart but of course there are a few who still insist they are an exception to the rule and they should be accorded recognition.

2.Show Interest in her as a person

Showing interest involves listening to your wife or girlfriend and I mean taking time to absorb what they are saying to you without dismissing, jumping to conclusion or offering solutions that you think are necessary. This seems to be the hardest thing to do for most men as instinctively they want to offer solutions. However, this seemingly noble action frustrates women as they feel unheard and so unloved. It is also important to ask her how she feels and what she wants. Show interest in her job if she has a career, or even her time spent at home if she is a housewife. Ask her about her hopes and aspirations, what her ambitions and fears are. In other words, take time to talk about her.

3.Help with small things

What men consider small things, are actually huge with women. Therefore things like taking her car for routine service or for repairs, taking out the trash, helping with kids or even fixing a meal for her while she is at work or just relaxing, go a long way in winning you big points with women. If she is sick, pay attention and offer to make her comfortable. If you need to take a day off from work so that you can accompany her to the doctor, then do it. It will seem nothing to you but believe me, any sane woman would appreciate such acts of kindness and care. When women talk of tender loving care (TLC), men get scared thinking that they are going to be asked to spend the whole day pampering and attending to their wife or girlfriend. The truth is, women also like time to be alone and to do their own thing, but they also like to feel secure in the knowledge that their men will be available to support them when the chips are down.

4.Keep the romance alive

Show the woman in your life that you love her by planning romantic getaways, dates and occasions. Buy her flowers and gifts, no matter how small. Most women value the thought and effort more than the gift. The more thoughtful and original the gift is the better. It will give men more points with women if they made an effort to remember important dates such as her birthday and anniversaries.

5.Spend quality time

Quality time does not necessarily mean having sex. This is an area where men and women seem to differ in their perception. While men like to feel close and intimate by having sexual intercourse, women on the other hand want to spend time cuddling, talking, kissing and just having fun without the pressure of sex. While it is naturally important that you have sex, make an effort to have moments of fun without making it the end goal. The above guidelines are just guidelines which might work with some people and fail with others. The overall determining factor is whether you genuinely love the woman in your life and if you do, a lot of these things will come naturally and effortlessly. It is also true that the woman in your life needs to be psychologically tuned and ready to receive your love. All in all, you need to be right for each other.





Mosline Farawu is a blogger commenting on women and issues affecting women in the 21st Century as well as a budding Internet Marketer. More articles can be found on: http://www.mosfarawu.com




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