No one can deny that body language plays a crucial role in catching girls' attention-and keeping it. Nearly *75%* of signals women send is through body language--so you're not going to find out if she's into you from words alone! Unfortunately, many men miss out on these signals, and thus miss out on the girl. The good news is, if you CAN read a girl's signals, you stand out from the rest of guys, and make yourself all the more attractive! With that said, here are 6 signs that she's not into you, and 10 signs that she is!
BAD BODY LANGUAGE
1. Not making eye contact with you—looking around, eyeing her friends, looking anywhere but at you
2. Legs crossed—always a bad sign. This means she's closing herself off to you
3. Arms crossed—This can convey annoyance and impatience. Definitely a bad sign.
4. Hands on her hips—This can also convey impatience. Not looking good.
5. Leaning backwards—It's much better when a woman is leaning towards you. If you notice her leaning away from you, keeping her distance, it means you've gotten too close for her comfort and she's not that into you, at least at this point.
6. A weak handshake—Do you shake a girl's hands when you meet her? If you do and notice that hers is weak and she is quick to take back her hand, then she's not very impressed.
GOOD BODY LANGUAGE
1. She looks down when you see her and smiles-A very good sign. She's shy but wants you to come over to talk to her.
2. She's twirling her hair around-Definitely into you.
3. Licks her lips-unless you can tell she's screwing with you, this is a very good sign!
4. Open legs-Open legs, open mind. She's open to hearing more from you-and who knows what else.
5. Sideways glance-The classic Hollywood flirtation, this is a coy, seductive way of showing her interest
6. Fondling a cylindrical object (cigarette, glass, etc.)-VERY good sign! And a hint of what she may have in mind for later on in the evening…
7. Fondling her shoe (shoe is slight off her foot, twisting her foot in circles)-This is that classic shy signal that girls use to display interest.
8. The "leg twine"-one leg pressed hard against the other to give the appearance of high muscle tone-very good sign
9. The head toss-If she tosses her hair back over her shoulders, this is definitely a good gesture.
10. Exposed wrists-If she's interested in you, she will gradually display the smooth, soft skin of her wrists to a guy she's interested in. Wrists are actually considered one of the more erotic areas of the body-so if she's showing you this sexual area-go for it!
Hope these tips help you out. Remember, none of this will do you any good if you don't follow up on it! If a girl is showing interest, it's up to you to take the next step and show your attraction BACK to her. Tune in to my next article on what YOU as a man must do to successfully attract female attention, using flirtatious body language. Because it's your turn!
James Brito is the author of "How to Be Irresistible to Women." His years of dating experience and
international travel have tutored him in the art of meeting and seducing women the world over. His immersion in international dating circles brings forth a gritty, no-nonsense approach to dating and developing relationships necessary for the modern single man.
Learn more about how to attract the woman of your dreams at:
www.000relationships.com/towomen/
James Brito makes it easy to attract and build honest relationships with the women you want. To receive your free 6-part audio mini-course, please visit:
www.000relationships.com/towomen/
Let's say you're out on the town and you see a beautiful woman that quickly captures your attention and she begins to touch her hair, looks your way, and smile. You were looking at her all this time and you imagine how impossible it would be to ask her out because if you did she would no doubt reject you. In reality, you've just sold yourself short and messed out on an golden opportunity. If you knew how to read women's body language, you would've noticed that she was actually throwing out clues for you to make a move and was clearly attracted to you just as much as you were to her. By learning to read and understand a woman's body language you can prevent chances like this from slipping by you.
First of all, what you need to be aware of is that there are to two types of body language, closed and open. Closed signs tell you when a woman isn't interested or doesn't want to be bothered. Meanwhile, the open signs that a woman gives off shows you when a woman is attracted or interested in getting to know you.
Close Body Language:
The most obvious sign that a woman doesn't want to be bothered is when her arms are folded. This doesn't necessarily mean she doesn't like you or isn't attracted to you but rather simply that she's not in the mood. It's possible that she's uncomfortable, agitated, or again doesn't want to be bothered with meeting men at least at the moment.
If you've started a conversation with a woman you've decided to approach and she rolls her eyes it should be a clear sign that she's embarrassed or annoyed with you. The chances of success with a woman who does this are very slim since she's already made up her mind about you. Another fact you should keep in mind and learn to quickly read is if she leans back after you are about to approach her. This the signal that women will give you that they don't want to be around you and that you should back away.
Open Body Language:
Reaction To Eye Contact
One classic example I will use is when a woman flips her hair. When a women flips her hair then afterwards looks your way its an obvious signal that she's attracted to you and wants your full attention.
An important thing you should understand is how to read her reaction after eye contact is established. You can tell she's not interested in you if she looks away and does nothing afterwards. However, when a woman shows signs that she has become nervous due to you looking at her then its an obvious she's interested in you.
Examples of these signs include doing things like:
- Adjusting clothes
- Playing with her watch and/or jewelry
- Checking her cell phone suddenly
Signals While Talking
Once you've decided to approach her and begin a conversation, one sign a woman gives you that you've won her over is when she leans forward and seems interested in everything you say. A subtle and subconscious way of a woman showing you a sign that she wants you is if she exposes wrists and has the palm of her hands open. It's her way of telling you that she's willing to be submissive to you.
My favorite example of open body language that women show is when they laugh at all or almost all your jokes (whether or not they're funny), continue to smile a lot, and start touching you. It's a clear sign that she's become comfortable with you and that she's really attracted to you. This is one of the best times to make your move to ask her out on a date and get her number.
Studies have shown that a woman's body language actually tells you more than half of what she really means even more so than speaking words. With that in mind, while it does make a difference to understand it, it shouldn't be thought of as totally fool proof. Even if a woman's body language is closed to you this shouldn't stop you from actually attempting to start a polite conversation if you really like her.
While fear of rejection is something that most men face, the only time you really fail is when you don't try. Usually the worst that could happen is a woman telling you that she's not interested in you. Anything worse then that and it should tell you a good sign that she's not someone you should pursue anyway.
Always remember to pay attention to what her body is actually saying but it's up to you to decide on whether or not you'll act on things and how you'll act which really determines your success.
It’s a question every guy asks himself, every guy struggles with at some point or another, every guy desperately wants to know the answer to:
WHAT DO WOMEN WANT?
The answer isn’t easy to come by. There are as many answers as there are types of women: young, old; fat, skinny; talkative, quiet; beautiful…not so beautiful. They all want different things, different men for their different personalities. It’s enough to drive a man crazy! We want to know so badly what it is women desire that Hollywood addressed the age-old question with the movie "What Women Want" (which, I’m embarrassed to say, I enjoyed).
So, surely…there must be something ALL women want?
That’s the good news: There are certain qualities every woman can appreciate. And as men, that’s what we need to focus on most. Not on what we THINK they want, but on what we can KNOW they want. Maybe we think being 6′5", wealthy, and jacked like a football player is what every woman wants, but (thankfully) it’s not. Only certain women want that, and the groupies who only want a millionaire athlete on steroids usually aren’t even worth your time.
It’s better to focus on the girls YOU really want: the girls who make you feel good, and make you a better man. Empower yourself with a sense of choice, so that you don’t waste your time (and theirs) hitting on girls who don’t fit with your personality and purpose. The great news is, if you can provide the basic qualities that all women REALLY desire, then getting the girl of your dreams will be easy!
So let’s look at some things we can safely say women want in a man–regardless of his size, regardless of his looks, regardless of his wealth.
1. A demonstrative value. That is, women want to know that their man is someone other women would want. They want a certain "gotta have" quality about their man. This is why, when we go out with a girlfriend, women give us looks and always seem more interested. It’s annoying but true: the easiest way to get a girl, is to have one already!
Naturally, that doesn’t mean that you should be hitting on girls when you have a girlfriend. No way! But when you are single, it’s important to know how to show value. I’ve got a great lesson on this in my e-book that will show you everything you need to know: how to make her laugh, how to show a talent, and how to make sure she never leaves you.
There’s so much to learn, but in short, you want to be a guy girls love to be around, and that other girls want to have! If you don’t feel like you’re there right now, do your best to be a fun-loving guy who people enjoy being around. Be quick with a smile, and quick with a joke. Even a guy who smiles a lot can be someone girls want. Who doesn’t enjoy being around someone who’s happy, who lifts the mood of the room?
2. A man who needs her…but not too much. This can greatly value from girl to girl, but basically women DO want to feel appreciated. They just don’t want to be obsessed over. Guys, show interest in a woman, and make her feel beautiful and wanted…but don’t slave over her and make her feel like you can’t live without her. That’s just pathetic, and drives women away.
I wrote a blog on how women want to feel needed. Check it out now if you want to find out how to show your woman the right amount of love.
3. A feeling of security. Women want to feel safe with a man. They want to know that everything’s gonna be all right. This doesn’t mean you have to be huge and strong, or have millions in the bank. It just means you have to talk reassuringly to her, look after her safety, and assure her when she needs it that things are going to be OK.
It also means coming to her protection, when she needs it. If someone is being a jerk to her, stand up for her. If she’s being threatened, fight for her. Let her know that you will fight for her, and nothing will get in your way.
One of the best ways to make her feel confident that you will protect her, of course, is to be…
4. A guy who’s in shape. Okay, I said that you don’t have to be a professional rugby player to attract women, but that doesn’t mean you should let your body slide! Part of a woman’s evolutionary mechanism says that a man who is strong will protect her and the children, as well as produce strong children. Likewise, a man who is weak will produce weak children, and not be able to protect the family as well (if at all) It may occur subconsciously, but it’s there.
So show her your value by being a guy who’s well-built, healthy, and athletic. Join a gym, not just to get women but to improve your health and the way you see yourself. Join a martial arts class–who doesn’t like a guy who can kick some ass? You’ll feel better about yourself, making it easier to pick up girls, and her mating drive will only naturally attract her to you. It’s a win-win situation!
5. Someone who’s not boring. Doesn’t matter how good looking you are…if you bore a woman to tears, she’s not gonna stick around–or even give you a chance, for that matter. Be someone who smiles. Someone who’s quick with a laugh. Someone who doesn’t take life too seriously, who lets loose. That shows a lot more value than a guy who’s stiff and serious–even if he is good looking or wealthy. Believe me, there are lots of guys who have money, who have good looks–but are single, because they’re dull and not fun to be around.
6. Someone who’s good with her friends. You’ve seen it at bars: girls always look to their friends for their approval. Get their friends’ approval, and you get the girl’s approval.
Oftentimes it’s actually best to concentrate on getting to know the girl’s group of friends before you spend time talking to her. If you can make her friends laugh and enjoy your company, getting the girl you want will be a piece of cake!
I really like this piece of advice from Joseph Matthews, aka Thundercat, author of The Art of the Approach, in his free e-newsletter: "Meeting women when they are with their friends is WAY easier than waiting for when they are alone! This is because women with friends feel safe and relaxed, so their defenses aren’t up."
Furthermore, he warns that you’re not doing your chances any favors by waiting til she’s alone: "If you wait until she’s by herself to meet her, you’re walking into a situation where she’s going to be WAY more defensive than usual." So learn to be sociable, and just have fun with her friends! If you can make them enjoy your company, getting your "target’s" approval will be a piece of cake.
This is also where it’s good to go with girls in the same social network as you…you already have the approval of mutual friends. The book, Sex in America, says that 60% of married couples meet through friends, work, or mutual activities. For more information on using networking to your benefit, click here.
Finally, the trait all women REALLY want: 7. A man with a purpose. Believe me, women don’t expect every guy they meet to be worth hundreds of millions of dollars, have more power than the mayor, and be more handsome than Brad Pitt. They don’t expect you to be wildly successful. But they DO want you to be headed towards success. They DO want you to have direction. They DO want you to be living up to your potential. And those aren’t bad expectations to have! Remember, "Behind every great man is a great woman." You may not be at the top just yet, but as long as you’re heading there, with goals in life, you’re bound to attract women. And more importantly, reach your own personal success.
I highly suggest you read "The Way of the Superior Man," by David Deida. It details the importance of having a life purpose, both for you and for your girlfriend or wife. The book also explains the very important idea that if someone doesn’t fit into your purpose, or detracts you from it, then she isn’t worth your time. As I said above, don’t just go for any old girl: go for the ones who fit YOU, and who make YOU a better person. That’s what we men should really want!
I hope all of this advice helps you out as you seek to improve yourself and attract the women who matter to you. Remember that it isn’t important to know what the bimbo who wants to spend all your money wants: it’s important to know what women who want to be with you want. Empower yourself by being choosy, and you’ll be sure to attract the woman who’s right for you.
Finally, for more information on attracting the specific women you really want, check out my e-book and audio series. Thanks for reading!
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James Brito regularly explores topics of attraction. Since 2000, he has helped thousands of men around build confidence and get the women they deserve. To get his free six-part audio mini-course, visit:
http://www.000relationships.com/towomen/
For single guys, trying to meet woman can be a very frustrating process. Even if we go to the right places and find interesting girls, it still can be difficult due to the fact that guys have to be the ones who initiate a conversation.
Making the first move can be quite intimidating due to the fact that many guys don't know what to say or how to start talking to women.
Even worse, a lot of guys are unsure if a girl will be interested in them.
But if you become a master at reading the body language of women, you can avoid that initial uneasiness and have the confidence to approach women.
So what is body language?
Basically body language is the collection of traits and behavior that all people give off which indicates our conscious (and sub-conscious) feelings. By paying attention to the body language of a woman, you'll be able to tell if she wants you to talk to her.
Having this knowledge will make approaching her that much easier. So when you locate a girl that you are interested in, take a look at her body language and pay attention to these three indicators of interest:
1) Eye Contact
Before even talking to a woman, try to make direct eye contact with her. Often you'll see her looking away quickly and then glancing back at you. If she holds your eye contact, then that is a definite indicator that she has an interest in you.
In addition, when she knows that you're looking at her, study how she interacts with her friends and environment. Try to find anything that indicates a level of nervousness. This shows that she is attracted to you and is having trouble composing herself.
2) Touching Her Hair
For some mysterious reason, women show their interest in a guy by playing with their hair. By watching how she touches her hair, you'll find out her level of interest.
Once you make eye contact, study how she touches her hair. The first thing you should look for is if she flips her hair. If you see her toss her hair from one side to the other and then looks directly at you, this indicates that she has some level of desire for you and would like you to engage her in a conversation.
Some other hair indicators can include caressing her hair as she talks to her friends or twirling hair around her finger. If you see these actions coupled with looks in your direction, then you're being sent a subtle message.
3) Pointing Her Body Towards You
A powerful way to find out if a woman likes you is to watch how she positions her body after making initial eye contact. If she positions her body in your general direction, then this shows she is attracted to you.
When studying her, you are basically looking for certain indicators which demonstrate a subconscious desire for you to talk to her. Some gestures can include:
• Feet pointing towards you
• Exposing her wrists in your direction
• Widening her legs
If you see any maneuver from a woman which indicates an "opening up", she is telling you that she is attracted and wants you to initiate a conversation.
By paying attention to the body language of women, you can find out their level of desire without even speaking a word. If you're the shy type, then this is a great way to build confidence before making your first move.
So next time you're looking for women, take some time to check out what they are saying to you without speaking a word.
Scott Patterson is a master at meeting, approaching, and attracting women. Check out his free ecourse and discover how you can also succeed with women:
www.chickmagnet101.com/succeed-with-women.html
It's a question every guy asks himself, every guy struggles with at some point or another, every guy desperately wants to know the answer to:
WHAT DO WOMEN WANT?
The answer isn't easy to come by. There are as many answers as there are types of women: young, old; fat, skinny; talkative, quiet; beautiful…not so beautiful. They all want different things, different men for their different personalities. It's enough to drive a man crazy! We want to know so badly what it is women desire that Hollywood addressed the age-old question with the movie "What Women Want" (which, I'm embarrassed to say, I enjoyed).
So, surely…there must be something ALL women want?
That's the good news: There are certain qualities every woman can appreciate. And as men, that's what we need to focus on most. Not on what we THINK they want, but on what we can KNOW they want. Maybe we think being 6′5", wealthy, and jacked like a football player is what every woman wants, but (thankfully) it's not. Only certain women want that, and the groupies who only want a millionaire athlete on steroids usually aren't even worth your time.
It's better to focus on the girls YOU really want: the girls who make you feel good, and make you a better man. Empower yourself with a sense of choice, so that you don't waste your time (and theirs) hitting on girls who don't fit with your personality and purpose. The great news is, if you can provide the basic qualities that all women REALLY desire, then getting the girl of your dreams will be easy!
So let's look at some things we can safely say women want in a man-regardless of his size, regardless of his looks, regardless of his wealth.
1. A demonstrative value. That is, women want to know that their man is someone other women would want. They want a certain "gotta have" quality about their man. This is why, when we go out with a girlfriend, women give us looks and always seem more interested. It's annoying but true: the easiest way to get a girl, is to have one already!
Naturally, that doesn't mean that you should be hitting on girls when you have a girlfriend. No way! But when you are single, it's important to know how to show value. I've got a great lesson on this in my e-book that will show you everything you need to know: how to make her laugh, how to show a talent, and how to make sure she never leaves you.
There's so much to learn, but in short, you want to be a guy girls love to be around, and that other girls want to have! If you don't feel like you're there right now, do your best to be a fun-loving guy who people enjoy being around. Be quick with a smile, and quick with a joke. Even a guy who smiles a lot can be someone girls want. Who doesn't enjoy being around someone who's happy, who lifts the mood of the room?
2. A man who needs her…but not too much. This can greatly value from girl to girl, but basically women DO want to feel appreciated. They just don't want to be obsessed over. Guys, show interest in a woman, and make her feel beautiful and wanted…but don't slave over her and make her feel like you can't live without her. That's just pathetic, and drives women away.
I wrote a blog on how women want to feel needed. Check it out now if you want to find out how to show your woman the right amount of love.
3. A feeling of security. Women want to feel safe with a man. They want to know that everything's gonna be all right. This doesn't mean you have to be huge and strong, or have millions in the bank. It just means you have to talk reassuringly to her, look after her safety, and assure her when she needs it that things are going to be OK.
It also means coming to her protection, when she needs it. If someone is being a jerk to her, stand up for her. If she's being threatened, fight for her. Let her know that you will fight for her, and nothing will get in your way.
One of the best ways to make her feel confident that you will protect her, of course, is to be…
4. A guy who's in shape. Okay, I said that you don't have to be a professional rugby player to attract women, but that doesn't mean you should let your body slide! Part of a woman's evolutionary mechanism says that a man who is strong will protect her and the children, as well as produce strong children. Likewise, a man who is weak will produce weak children, and not be able to protect the family as well (if at all) It may occur subconsciously, but it's there.
So show her your value by being a guy who's well-built, healthy, and athletic. Join a gym, not just to get women but to improve your health and the way you see yourself. Join a martial arts class-who doesn't like a guy who can kick some ass? You'll feel better about yourself, making it easier to pick up girls, and her mating drive will only naturally attract her to you. It's a win-win situation!
5. Someone who's not boring. Doesn't matter how good looking you are…if you bore a woman to tears, she's not gonna stick around-or even give you a chance, for that matter. Be someone who smiles. Someone who's quick with a laugh. Someone who doesn't take life too seriously, who lets loose. That shows a lot more value than a guy who's stiff and serious-even if he is good looking or wealthy. Believe me, there are lots of guys who have money, who have good looks-but are single, because they're dull and not fun to be around.
6. Someone who's good with her friends. You've seen it at bars: girls always look to their friends for their approval. Get their friends' approval, and you get the girl's approval.
Oftentimes it's actually best to concentrate on getting to know the girl's group of friends before you spend time talking to her. If you can make her friends laugh and enjoy your company, getting the girl you want will be a piece of cake!
I really like this piece of advice from Joseph Matthews, aka Thundercat, author of The Art of the Approach, in his free e-newsletter: "Meeting women when they are with their friends is WAY easier than waiting for when they are alone! This is because women with friends feel safe and relaxed, so their defenses aren't up."
Furthermore, he warns that you're not doing your chances any favors by waiting til she's alone: "If you wait until she's by herself to meet her, you're walking into a situation where she's going to be WAY more defensive than usual." So learn to be sociable, and just have fun with her friends! If you can make them enjoy your company, getting your "target's" approval will be a piece of cake.
This is also where it's good to go with girls in the same social network as you…you already have the approval of mutual friends. The book, Sex in America, says that 60% of married couples meet through friends, work, or mutual activities. For more information on using networking to your benefit, click here.
Finally, the trait all women REALLY want: 7. A man with a purpose. Believe me, women don't expect every guy they meet to be worth hundreds of millions of dollars, have more power than the mayor, and be more handsome than Brad Pitt. They don't expect you to be wildly successful. But they DO want you to be headed towards success. They DO want you to have direction. They DO want you to be living up to your potential. And those aren't bad expectations to have! Remember, "Behind every great man is a great woman." You may not be at the top just yet, but as long as you're heading there, with goals in life, you're bound to attract women. And more importantly, reach your own personal success.
I highly suggest you read "The Way of the Superior Man," by David Deida. It details the importance of having a life purpose, both for you and for your girlfriend or wife. The book also explains the very important idea that if someone doesn't fit into your purpose, or detracts you from it, then she isn't worth your time. As I said above, don't just go for any old girl: go for the ones who fit YOU, and who make YOU a better person. That's what we men should really want!
I hope all of this advice helps you out as you seek to improve yourself and attract the women who matter to you. Remember that it isn't important to know what the bimbo who wants to spend all your money wants: it's important to know what women who want to be with you want. Empower yourself by being choosy, and you'll be sure to attract the woman who's right for you.
Finally, for more information on attracting the specific women you really want, check out my e-book and audio series. Thanks for reading!
James Brito, author of "How to Be Irresistible to Women," has helped thoudands of men world-wide build confidence and find love. To receive his free six-part audio mini-course, visit:
http://www.000relationships.com
Because it's YOUR turn!
Do you want to me more likable especially to women? Do you feel your life is a little boring and you want to find new things in life to perk up your life? If you are looking for tips on how to be more interesting to other people and to women, here are some things you may want to do to get started.
* Socialize and make new friends. Aside from the existing friends you have, meet other people. Expand your network of friends. They may be some people new to the neighborhood, or a new officemate or the usual people you meet around on your jogging session that you never get to know more before. You can actually find new friends in the workplace, in church, in the neighborhood and in your favorite leisure spot.
* Go out and try new things. If your weekends are spent on your favorite TV show or movie at home, try to make a change. Instead, go out and try a new sport or adventure, or get involved in exciting and interesting activities. This will not only help you make new friends but will also help you make exciting and interesting conversations, which of course, one of the keys on how to be more interesting to women.
* Be a wide-reader. Aside from getting involved in new activities, it also helps a lot to be a wide-reader. Read about current events and read interesting books and popular ones. Aside from books about your interest, you can also try to read on topics that are new to you. Some people also have amazing skills of remembering what they read and are excellent in picking out the great conversations and facts of the book. When you share what you have read, most often, you will have an easier way to remember the good points of a book. Therefore, do not only read - share it.
* Learn the tricks of good storytelling. Of course, some of us may be really good in telling stories but some could also fail on this aspect. However, there are ways to improve and master the skill of how to communicate effectively. Oftentimes, we tend to equate an interesting person to how interesting he tells a story. Indeed, most people find good storytellers interesting, so learn their tricks.
* Be interested on other people. Indeed, one of the best ways on how to be more interesting is showing interest to others. It does not mean meddling on their personal affairs but you can show interest in them by taking time to say 'Hi,' share a story, give an honest compliment, or just listen to them if they want to share something. Ask questions. Most often, interesting conversations start with one simple question that shows a genuine interest to the other person. If you master the skill of being able to listen to others and give honest compliments, you will also find yourself more likeable to women.
How to be more interesting to other people and to women, if you are aiming to attract women, can be actually learned. Try to make some time to make something new once in a while and learn many things that you can share to everyone, and you will find yourself getting more and more interesting.
Carolyn Anderson is a freelance author who also loves self-help books. For tips and techniques to be irresistible and interesting to women, check out this resource on how to approach and attract beautiful women. Also check out The Jerk Women Love if you want to know what women want in a man and capture the interest of the woman you like.
Men and women are created differently; they see things and understand them from different angles. The same applies to how men and women perceive love and its expression. Many men shoot in the dark, leave their women unsatisfied and find themselves frustrated in their efforts to express love.Here are a few guidelines on how to show a woman you love her and thus win her heart:
1.Say it!
Yes, just say it like it is. Why should you burn inside, beat about the bush and risk losing the one you love just because you are shy. Tell her you love her and the more you do that, you will find yourself acting out the love. Women need love and they want to hear it coming from your mouth and they will believe you. At the risk of generalising, women are ruled by the heart but of course there are a few who still insist they are an exception to the rule and they should be accorded recognition.
2.Show Interest in her as a person
Showing interest involves listening to your wife or girlfriend and I mean taking time to absorb what they are saying to you without dismissing, jumping to conclusion or offering solutions that you think are necessary. This seems to be the hardest thing to do for most men as instinctively they want to offer solutions. However, this seemingly noble action frustrates women as they feel unheard and so unloved. It is also important to ask her how she feels and what she wants. Show interest in her job if she has a career, or even her time spent at home if she is a housewife. Ask her about her hopes and aspirations, what her ambitions and fears are. In other words, take time to talk about her.
3.Help with small things
What men consider small things, are actually huge with women. Therefore things like taking her car for routine service or for repairs, taking out the trash, helping with kids or even fixing a meal for her while she is at work or just relaxing, go a long way in winning you big points with women. If she is sick, pay attention and offer to make her comfortable. If you need to take a day off from work so that you can accompany her to the doctor, then do it. It will seem nothing to you but believe me, any sane woman would appreciate such acts of kindness and care. When women talk of tender loving care (TLC), men get scared thinking that they are going to be asked to spend the whole day pampering and attending to their wife or girlfriend. The truth is, women also like time to be alone and to do their own thing, but they also like to feel secure in the knowledge that their men will be available to support them when the chips are down.
4.Keep the romance alive
Show the woman in your life that you love her by planning romantic getaways, dates and occasions. Buy her flowers and gifts, no matter how small. Most women value the thought and effort more than the gift. The more thoughtful and original the gift is the better. It will give men more points with women if they made an effort to remember important dates such as her birthday and anniversaries.
5.Spend quality time
Quality time does not necessarily mean having sex. This is an area where men and women seem to differ in their perception. While men like to feel close and intimate by having sexual intercourse, women on the other hand want to spend time cuddling, talking, kissing and just having fun without the pressure of sex. While it is naturally important that you have sex, make an effort to have moments of fun without making it the end goal.
The above guidelines are just guidelines which might work with some people and fail with others. The overall determining factor is whether you genuinely love the woman in your life and if you do, a lot of these things will come naturally and effortlessly. It is also true that the woman in your life needs to be psychologically tuned and ready to receive your love. All in all, you need to be right for each other.
Mosline Farawu is a blogger commenting on women and issues affecting women in the 21st Century as well as a budding Internet Marketer. More articles can be found on: http://www.mosfarawu.com